playing the guys are jerks card - but were NOT always innocent ladies

So there's this book, "HE's just not that into you" (which is now also a major motion picture too). It talks about the excuses guys make to not be in relationships, not treat girls with adequate respect (or respect at all), and really shows how they get out of any commitments and their incredibly selfish side...But you know what that partially stems from: GIRLS LETTING GUYS GET AWAY WITH IT.

Seriously girls. I am at fault here too. Not respecting and loving yourself will allow you to become desperate for attention, desperate for affection, and you will lower your standards for practically anything. Been there, done it, bought the t-shirt and got the sunburn and all that. And you know what else? WE ARE NOT ALWAYS THE VICTIM - why do we always play that card? (Noted by a friend who's undergoing a sort of "dating fast") While guys use us for physical attachment or whathave you, don't we use them for emotional attachment as well?

As I am writing this and talking to more people about it, its a humbling experience, but its def something I need to examine further. And think: WHAT DO I WANT? And not settle for anything less. B/c seriously, the minute you start lowering your standards, the minute you will start to settle for almost anything.